Dear Dra. Holmes,
I’m a woman married for almost 10 years with one son and a husband 8 years younger than me. Since our marriage, we encountered two (2) big quarrels. In 2007 I discovered, via text, that he had an affair with his officemate, who’s married to a seaman. From that time on, no more texts.
On Aug. 29, 2012 I discovered another text, I confronted him but he told me it’s a different girl. I discovered it was the same girl I called him and also texted the girl.
He asked forgiveness and not to do anything scandalous in their office coz they’re working together. I threatened him that I will tell their bosses. He said he will get out from this situation. I believed him, that he will clean his mess.
This weekend, I found a text from the girl, thanking him for the night that they slept together. I confronted him. He said he’s ma- king his moves little by little to end their relationship but it’s hard, I should understand that it’s not easy for him to get out. In the first place, they see each other everyday in the office.
I texted the girl with bad messages and later in the day fought like a mad girl. I was so hurt. I told him, WHY? Will she acted like that? She’s the KABIT, I’m the wife. I have the right to go to their office and confronted her in front of many people but I did not do it to protect the dignity of my husband.
Dra., I’m in a dilemma right now, coz my husband is telling me that he is on the process of ending whatever they call it an illicit love affair. But I can not really stop my feeling of doubts coz they see each other in the office and how can the girl move on and also my husband if they are together in one working place. I want to confront the girl but my husband said no.
Dra., what will I do to let the girl stop, if my husband is telling me that he is doing his part to stop it? Please, I need to know what will I do? If they are together in one working place? How can the girl moved on and also my husband if the temptation is there everyday? WILL I TELL THEIR BOSS ABOUT IT? SO THEY CAN BE REPRIMANDED?
Please help me on this matter. I hope you can give your time to answer my email. I will really appreciate it very much, coz I don’t know what to do about it. Thanks very much. -- Concerned Wife
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